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If Guys Acted On First Dates Like They Act On Tinder

I so don’t miss this
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Things People Over 30 Know About Dating

5. Everyone has baggage. But some people have luggage.

In my 20’s, I didn’t understand that the power struggles and fights I got into with my boyfriends were because of emotional baggage we’d both carried with us into adulthood. But after some therapy and spending an inordinate of time talking to intelligent friend while doing soul searching, I finally got to unpacking. Don’t get me wrong; I still have baggage (lots of it), but now at least I know how heavy it is and what it looks like coming down the airport carousel chute. So it’s important to consider, given the weight of your own, whether it’s in your best interest to date someone with an entire matching set of luggage.

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Things People Over 30 Know About Dating

4. You have the opportunity to surrender.

I have had fantastic lovers in my 20’s. But often, in that moment, I felt myself fall in love with him I would just as quickly pull away and break it off. I did this because I had a vision for how I wanted my life to play out, and, at the time, he didn’t fit into that framework. I gave up love for the illusion of control. Since then, not one thing in my life that has worked out as I’d planned: love has been elusive, dreams have died, work is hard and I am always tired. And yet, I have found utter happiness. How you may ask? It isn’t easy, but after learning a few painful lessons, I came to understand and finally trust that life has a plan for my ultimate happiness that is far more interesting than anything even my vivid imagination could ever dream up.

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Things People Over 30 Know About Dating

3. Drama is for thespians.

Drama is not actually an emotion. It’s a dimension that teenagers live in from sunup to sundown and adults create in order to live out a more heightened existence. His volatility, jealousy or temper isn’t a show of affection or love, it means he is not capable of having a healthy, grounded relationship. So unless you’re actively in pursuit of the Burton-Taylor Award or your own reality show, then it’s best to leave the drama to the people who went to school to study it.

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Things People Over 30 Know About Dating

2. Expect to be disappointed.

Even though I am tightly wound, I’m pretty laid-back when it comes to many things in life. My interests and experiences are also rather varied, so when it came to dating in my post-college years, I was pretty compatible with whomever came across my path. Whatever his disposition or lifestyle — night owl, outdoorsy, intellectual — I simply adjusted. But as I got older, dates became more of a chore, and I left them feeling deflated rather than elated. I didn’t understand what was happening. Was the thrill of discovering someone new gone? Had I become less interesting? Why did I find so many men disappointing? The answer (I came to in retrospect) was that the guys hadn’t changed, I had. Consequently, there were far fewer men who were going to fit into my parameters. And that’s OK. Because after a life of expansion, while it seems contradictory, zeroing in on your passions and the people who share them will actually expand your life and broaden your horizons.

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Things People Over 30 Know About Dating

1. There is no carrot.

I always thought of myself as being incredibly strong. But when it comes to sharing emotions & my heart, I am like a marshmallow. So to be able to croak out phrases like, “I need help,” or “I love you” to someone that matters takes battalions of inner strength. But it takes even more courage to say the words and not be tied to the outcome or the carrot. Uttering the words is the lesson and end, in and of itself.

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Awkward

I get nervous around anyone I find attractive… I’m so awkward.

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My Future Marriage

  1. Me (on my wedding day): you still like me right?
  2. Him: ehhhh...
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Why fall in love when you can fall asleep?